[Romans 8:14-16] "For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, "Abba, Father." The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God."
There is a huge difference between doing things for someone because you love them and doing things for someone because you want them to love you. Working yourself to death death trying to earn someone's love is a sign that you are operating out of a spirit of bondage. Our heavenly Father has not given us a spirit of bondage but the spirit of adoption. The spirit of adoption gives us the ability to love God so much that good works naturally come out of us.
God bless, and remember, YOU have victory in Jesus!